When I first met Linda, I thought, “OK, this is what she believes; these are the preachers she listens to; these are the books she reads; I don’t think we can agree”.
This is what I told my friend who was waiting for me to join him at the Airport after I had met her. And I closed the chapter. The day was 17th of November 2018. I had actually gone to Delhi for a two-day official trip and found the opportunity to club this rendezvous with my office agenda.
Three days passed after we met. Having finished pending office chores, I was on the verge of a two-week vacation to my hometown when I got a call from Linda’s dad telling me that she was expecting a friend request on Facebook. (Actually, I was the one who had asked her to send a friend request after we had met. She seemed hesitant then and so I passed. She still denies that she was hesitant :D).
But then, when I thought it was all over, it started all over again. Chatting with her everyday for two weeks during my vacation, I initially tried telling her indirectly that I would not agree with the spiritual books she read or the preachers she listened to. Eventually, I found that though she was not on point theologically, she had a heart to seek God and know Him – which ultimately overturned my initial decision and “prejudices”. And two years later, here we are now 🙂
I have always held that theological agreement is a prerequisite for a good marriage. I still believe that. But we have sharpened each other, learned from each other and grown in ways we could not have otherwise as individuals.